Reading has always been my fuel. It centers me, challenges me, and pushes me to grow. That’s why I begin every morning with a book in hand. It’s a rhythm that keeps me grounded and gives me space to reflect before the day begins. One book I return to each morning is Melody Beattie’s The Language of Letting Go.

This book has become a daily companion, reminding me that leadership and life are less about control and more about connection, courage, and grace. Each short reading offers a simple but profound truth—and this week, one lesson stayed with me: true growth and true leadership often begin when we loosen our grip.

Last week’s readings invited me to think differently about how I lead. I was reminded that spontaneity opens the door to joy and connection, vulnerability builds trust, apologies should be thoughtful—not constant, and forgiveness frees us to move forward without bitterness. Together, those lessons painted a picture of leadership that is less about perfection and more about courage.

Spontaneity in Action

I experienced this lesson firsthand during a recent 5th-grade walkthrough. The class was headed outside to play tug-of-war as part of a force and motion lesson on “pull.” As the teacher counted students into teams, I raised my hand to join.
Was I doing my job? Absolutely.
Did my team win? Yes.

Did we all walk away with a better understanding of “pull”? We did.

But what mattered most was that I stepped in as a lead learner—not just an observer. That little bit of spontaneity turned a routine walkthrough into a moment of connection and joy.
The next day, the teacher invited me back for her rollercoaster-building lesson. I got to check walkthroughs off my list and observe meaningful teaching, but because of the spontaneous choice I made the day before, it all felt lighter, more fun, and more relational.

Vulnerability at the Table

I’ve always believed leadership isn’t about having all the answers—it’s about creating space for others to lead too. I’m not afraid to say, “I don’t know, but let me find out.” The key is following through.

That’s part of why I keep an open-door policy. Last year, I added a table to my office, and it’s become a space where colleagues can sit, exhale, and problem-solve—or just enjoy a good cup of coffee. (And yes, I always keep good coffee on hand. When you love people, you give them good coffee.)

That table has reminded me daily that vulnerability builds trust, and trust creates space for shared leadership.

Apologies and Boundaries

Beattie also challenged my thinking about apologies. She writes that apologizing is always a choice, but not everything deserves an apology.

I don’t need to apologize for setting boundaries, prioritizing health, or protecting peace. At the same time, a sincere apology can repair trust when we misstep. The key is knowing the difference—and resisting the pull to apologize endlessly just to ease someone else’s discomfort.

As leaders, we owe people authenticity, not constant self-erasure.

The Freedom of Forgiveness

Finally, forgiveness. Beattie is clear that forgiveness doesn’t mean excusing harmful behavior. It means refusing to let someone else’s actions steal your joy.

That truth resonates deeply with me as a leader. Forgiveness frees us to focus on what matters most. It prevents bitterness from taking root. And it models resilience for the people we lead.

My Learning Last Week

These lessons weren’t just ideas on a page—I carried them with me into my work at the Tech & Learning Summit in Austin, TX. I had the opportunity to facilitate a conversation about STEAM in the core classroom, and it reminded me once again why I love leading sessions. They create authentic spaces for reciprocal learning. I may offer a bit of my own perspective, but I always walk away with so much more.

I made new connections and gathered strategies for spreading technology integration throughout the school, especially with our youngest learners. I also paid close attention to the way Carl Hooker facilitated. Through creative techniques, he turned what could have been routine conversations into moments of collaboration, energy, and fun—a live reminder of spontaneity and engagement in action.

Another highlight was the way vendors joined the conversation. Instead of pushing products, they listened. They sat with participants and engaged in meaningful dialogue about what’s happening in education right now. That willingness to be vulnerable and to hear from practitioners first felt refreshing—and aligned with the very lessons I’d been reflecting on from Beattie’s writing.

What I’m Reading Now

Alongside my daily reflections in The Language of Letting Go, I’ve been reading Crucial Conversations by Patterson, Grenny, McMillan, and Switzler. One of the reminders that stood out this week was that silence in a difficult conversation is never neutral—it shapes outcomes just as much as the words we choose.

When I connect that to Beattie’s themes of vulnerability and courage, it challenges me as a leader to lean into dialogue rather than avoid it. Saying, “I don’t know” or “Let’s talk through this together” may feel risky, but it builds trust and models the kind of openness I hope to cultivate in others.

Takeaway

This week’s reading left me with this truth: leadership doesn’t require perfection or control. It requires courage—the courage to be spontaneous, to apologize wisely, to forgive freely, and to remain vulnerable in ways that build trust.
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The Summit gave me a real-world opportunity to live that out. And even after the sessions ended, I carried the lesson forward. Instead of rushing into my to-do list the next morning, I wandered into a random coffee shop to reflect, write, and reset. It wasn’t planned—it was spontaneous. And it reminded me that sometimes the best way to lead is to show others how to live freely.

Where in your leadership or life could you loosen your grip—just a little—and see what happens?

Here’s to being a lead learner—in leadership and in life. Lead. Learn. Live. Repeat.

For years, I’ve described myself as a lifelong learner. I love digging into books, trying new tools, and reflecting on what leadership means in practice. But if I’m honest, I’ve done much of that learning quietly—without always capturing it, sharing it, or inviting others into the journey. This week, that changed.

I read the latest post from Rafranz Davis in her LinkedIn newsletter Learning Out Loud: Learning Is Social: From Labubu to AI Agents. In it, she tells the story of how one small creative project sparked a chain reaction of new learning—stickers, crafts, AI, and more. Her takeaway? “AI was a learning partner, but the community was the catalyst.”
Rafranz reminded me that while tools can guide us, people make learning meaningful. Her words hit me as both a challenge and a call to action. She has always been a driving force and guiding light in my personal learning and professional growth, and once again, her reflections pushed me to step forward.

This newsletter, Lead Learner, is my answer.

Why Lead Learner? I believe leadership is reciprocal. Sometimes I have answers, but many times I don’t—and I want to model that it’s okay to say, “I don’t know, but let me find out.” Vulnerability builds trust, and trust creates space for others to step forward and lead too.
Here’s what I plan to share here:

• Reflections from my leadership journey as an assistant principal, and what I’m still learning along the way
• Insights from books, conversations, and experiences that challenge me to grow
• Practical applications that connect leadership and life—because the two can’t be separated
• Stories of spontaneity, vulnerability, and forgiveness that remind us leadership is as human as it is strategic
• My personal learning and growth outside of work is essential because I have a whole life beyond my role, and this space allows me to show who I am.

My goal is to build a space where learning is not just captured, but also shared, where leadership is not about perfection, but about curiosity, courage, and community.
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So here’s the question I’ll leave with you—one I plan to ask often:
How will you take what you’ve learned today and live it out tomorrow?